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Double Standards...what's good for the goose
9:35AM on August 18, 2008
Let's talk double standards...
Why when a man is kickin' it with more than one female he's "the dude, a pimp, a playa, experienced" but when a woman is kickin' it with more than one man she's "a hoe (whore for all you prim and proper), slut, skeeza, skank"
In my first blog I asked a question and received some very interesting responses from my fellas (thanks 4 that) but, I need to know why women are expected to be "holier-than-thou, and men are praised when they run around and fuck everything with a hole big enough to allow penetration??
Men don't want to be with a woman that has been around the block more than once with different drivers from what I understand...so why would you think a woman wants to be with you under the same circumstances??
When you are kickin' it with more than one woman it does not make you "THA SHIT" you are just as nasty as a female that does it! and I don't want to hear that it's "expected from males" 'cause that's bullshit...what's expected is that you are faithful to whomever you decide to kick it with at that time.
Well, until next blog...
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illdy... |
August 23, 2008 (Report It)
Hey beautiful....frankly i agree with you. I am a man that feels as long as she takes care of her business and is on point if a woman wants to fuck like a man then by all means do it. I always thought that women that called other women sluts and whores were jealous because that's all it is. Pure jealousy. I know that if i say naw i didn't fuck i get crazy looks and people think that i am lying. I guess because i'm suppose to be able to get the pussy with ease. Some women might look like they fuck everything but really don't but because "she looks, talks and acts" a certain way she is percieved to be that slut or hoe. So for close minded individuals don't throw stones when you are living in a glass house yourselves. I guess if you're on rude and close minded then you really shouldn't be on here reading this....lol. |
keepu... |
August 18, 2008 (Report It)
well personally i wouldn't give a damn if they make one another happy I'm all for it ,I mean who I to speak on that situation that's there business more love to them |
amand... |
August 18, 2008 (Report It)
sorry for the essay |
amand... |
August 18, 2008 (Report It)
About this double standard. To be honest....Now that I been evolved with numinous women. I this very same phenomenon strange. Yeah its one thing how men its straight forward why males would have this double standard because males benefit from it. However; I have noticed that with women. They tend to target men who are with other women or even seem to be popular with the ladies. Hell i find it funny how it far easier to attract more females sexually when in a committed relationship. So that even add fuel to the fire.
Then you got this whole bi-sexual double standard in which its okay for women to be bi- and not for men which also makes this double standard even stronger.
Most of all I have noticed that when a man seems too good to be true in the bed, socially, and even mentally...or in other words A GOOD MAN he is often accused of being a playa or pimp regardless. Then you got cases when your home girls will get to calling you a ho' because you can attract more men then them too or because you got a decent man. So to be honest, the double standard is fueled by men thinking they can get away with it, and women enabling them to do so. |
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What's good for the goose...
12:16AM on August 17, 2008
Well, well, well the time has come for a question that has been burning in my mind to be answered. Here's the situation, followed by the question: My bestfriend from high school was dating this guy that we all hung out with during high school and it lasted until he left for college. She was in her Junior year of high school at that time.
They picked it up where it had left off when she graduated high school and he was in his junior year of college. She found out that during the time they were not an item (hence the word NOT) he dated one of our ex-bestfriends from high school (same clique), and she broke it off with him. I reminded her that she also dated someone he knew during their "break" from each other (his bestfriend, still til this very day) and I asked her why she broke up with him and she said "because it's nasty for him to date one of my female friends" she went on to say that it's like dating a family member, which is a big no-no!
Question: Why is it not ok for your ex to date a friend or family member of yours?? If you are done with him/her what the fuck do you care! I have been in this situation before that's why I can honestly say that in MY opinion, I couldn't care less. My ex-boyfriend from college is now married to my cousin and they are as happy as the day is long together, and the reason I don't think it's gross, nasty, not-acceptable, uncomfortable etc...is because he and I were not happy together and who in-the-hell am I to dictate to him or my cousin who they can and cannot try to find happiness with?? he and I are better friends and my cousin knows that she has nothing to worry about, we don't make googly eyes at each other at family functions nor do we say things like "remember when we went to the skating rink how much fun we had" it's all good...but that's my story and I know not everyone can deal with things the way I do so I want to hear from you and how you feel about...what's good for the goose, not being good for the gander.
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amand... |
August 18, 2008 (Report It)
To be honest. I don't have a problem with my ex-dating a relative or friend of mine. I would only be a problem of she used it as a means to get closet to me. I am good for holding a grudge but however that is no right to dishonor my friend or relative. I know this much, i would not be coming to the weeding lol. |
mandigo1 |
August 17, 2008 (Report It)
I HEAR YOU SWEETIE BUT ITS DIFFERENT FROM A GUYS PROSPECTIVE CAUSE ITS NOT COOL FOR YOUR EX TO DATE YOUR COUSIN,FRIEND OR BROTHER BECAUSE ITS JUST A RESPECT FACTOR THAT PLAYS INTO THE SITUATION I UNDERSTAND THE HAPPINESS THING BUT THERE MORE THAN ONE PERSON TO FIND HAPPINESS WITH. AND I FEEL WHAT MY BOY BMOREDRE SAID THATS REAL TALK THERE |
illdy... |
August 17, 2008 (Report It)
I don't see how your friend could think dating her ex's best friend is okay but not ok for him to date her friend...that's a double standard. I think if you're gonna do something then you should expect it to happen to you in return. |
bmoredre |
August 17, 2008 (Report It)
To me it all depends on who the person was. I wouldn't want any of my homies fuckin none of my ex's that I had feelings for but a female that I might dislike or was just hittin on the regular i wouldn't care. it takes mature adults to deal with a situation like this but it can be done |
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