Single and looking for love??
9:01PM on September 02, 2009
COMMUNICATION you have to be able to allow your partner to express themselves to you without feeling judged or told they are wrong just because they dont always agree with you. At the sametime your partner is suppost to be able to open up and express themeselves in the same manner. When you start using communication to belittle your partner it is hard to going back to being open, in other words don't express hateful emotions just because you are upset or feel you need to strike out at a person.
TRUST: this is one thing that can and will tear a relationship apart. You have to have TRUST. If you don't trust the person you are with you need to get your ass out NOW, better yet stop and ask yourself what has this person done to lose your trust. No not what you think they may have done but what you can actually prove they've done. If you can't think of anything the problem is you and not them. You are holding them guilty of misdeeds that happened in the past with your ex and that is not fair. If you have not gotten over those issues you need to before you waste your mates time trying to make them jump through hoops to prove they can be trusted. Are you a trust worthy yourself. Hard to trust a good person if you are up to no good. Trust them enough to be human and know how they feel for you and that they will do what they want regardless just again trust they are true to you.
RESPECT you have to show respect for the person you are with. You are with them for a reason and 5yrs down the line dont try to change that reason. You respect that they are individuals and are your equal. That doesnt mean you bow down and just do whatever they say that means you respect what they have to say, you respect them when you are making decisions that could effect the both of you. You gotta give it to get it.
SUPPORT that doesnt just mean with your money but support in every way you can. We as people do so much better when we have someone in our corner for the good and bad. You have to be your partners number one fan. When your partner is in crisis it is you that they want to be there for comfort and to listen. When shit can't get no worse and you've tried all you can again we look at our partner for that loving support. Without that you leave the door open for girlfriend or boyfriend #2.
SEX: yeah it matters. No sex can't keep a relationship without all the other stuff too. However sex is the only phyiscal way that we can get closer then close. I've been around so I would have to say I am a beast in the bedroom when I got the attraction for you. However most aren't willing to really give in to pleasing their mate. Any person can claim they enjoy the sex in the beginning but give them enough time for non satisfaction and watch everything change. Sex is more powerful then we think and yes it can have mind control on you IF you allow it. For me in that department it is going to take a true freak to stand toe to toe with me. My mind is beyond the basic boring bedroom tricks. I am that wild out door down for whatever is clever style lover. I aim to please and demand to be pleased. Let me get bored and you not be ready to switch it up... I'll be looking to switch up on partners (sorry but so real). Trust there are plenty of unhappy sexual freaks out there looking for the get down. Call it what you want, I call it pleasure.
DESIRE: You can force anyone to settle down unless they have the desire too. You can be Vanessa Del Rio in the bedroom and Betty Crocker in the kitchen if that person is not ready to commit to you they won't. But now if you have that person in front of you wtih the desire to be with you and you put them off because you are not ready, don't get upset if their desire changes. Or if while you were "waiting" if someone else stepped their game up and take your spot. Don't hate if you've been replaced just start over at step 1 and this time don't drag your feet.
Once you have that person.. you need to maintain this things and more to keep them in the words of that musical ledgend Jahim... Put your Mate (woman) First
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