Attracting Your Perfect Mate
12:40PM on December 19, 2008
Who is the perfect mate for you...
For years I never knew exactly what I wanted from a man...My longest relationships lasted about 2 years or so at the most....I never had any specific guidlelines for what I wanted, mainly because I honestly didnt know, I was very non chalant and indecisive on the subject....and I think one of the reasons for not knowing is because I didnt know myself or what I desired and didnt desire
I honestly feel relationships help a person find out who they are...you find out what you do and dont want, what you like or dont like, what you can or can't deal with, how you feel about this or that....Relationships help you grow as a person and if you are with someone that you aren't growing with then you are probably "stuck" right now....Ive always known when to let go and move on, even when I didn't want to I was pulled forward and I would run across somebody else who would help me figure a little bit more about me and I started to notice that alot of folks were "mirrors" to me....when I really started to look at them, I saw "me".....its true that the things that bother u most about other people is what bothers you about urself.....so I started paying attention and recognizing that things that didnt set well with me in a mate are things that were in me that didnt set well with me within me....
anyways....I can write a book about that subject, but earlier tonite somebody asked me
"what would make a man want to have a committed relationship with me, what would I bring to the table"
My answer is
good question.....up until about a year or so ago i wasn't ready for a committed relationship...not a real one anyways....
Now that Im in a different mindset I realize that for the type of man I desire that I must be that type of woman to compliment him
I desire a man who is sure and confident in himself and accepts and loves himself for who he is and isnt afraid to show the world the real him
Is health conscious mentally, spiritually and physically
Emits positive energy
Is open minded
Self sufficient but not so prideful that he won't ask for help when he needs it
Isn't afraid to love, let his walls down and be "vulnerable" and let a woman love him
A lovemaker
An uplifter
Trustworthy, honest, accepting, respectful, giving, caring, nurturing, understanding, forgiving, appreciative and loves unconditionally
A man who will hold my emotions and my heart to his
A man who will take care of home and his
A man who will always stand by his woman
A man who appreciates true love
so I strive and work towards being all of the above to so I will be that woman that that man desires as well
plus I can cook too
One thing I've learned for certain is that no matter what level I was on mentally, I attracted people on my same level....so I know the higher I get the higher man I will attract
Don't expect to attract somebody worth a million dollars when you aren't worth a dime
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