Kiss Kiss Kiss
12:29AM on November 03, 2009

 Sex obviously is one of the most intimate things you can do with another person. In a "perfect world, it preferably, is somthing you do with a person you are married to, or in a commited relationship with. But, we all know that sex is a much more powerful driving force than many people would like to admit; and that many individuals NOT in serious relationships readily indulge in sexual connections with others. Its just a part of life.

How much more intimate can you get with a person and being totally nude, one person inside of the other making, not only, a physical connection but, because of the sheer intensity of the act, an emotional connection, as well. Some would say that the act of sexual intercourse is a connection on a spiritual level; that you are, also, linking the soul, of the two people, involved.

With all that said, I come to the point of kissing. We all know there are different "levels" of kissing. Whether it be a kiss you receive from your mother, a peck on the cheek from a friend or a deep tongue down from a lover, kisses mean different things, to different people, in different situations. These factors, also, extend to the reasons why people do, and dont, kiss in the first place.

Over the years of talking with various people and reading different accounts from others, it is VERY interesting to observe the many people who DONT/wont kiss another person, BUT, will indulge in oral sex, as well as, intercourse with that same person; BUT AGAIN, they WONT kiss them.

Much of the reasoning behind this is the implications of kissing, that kissing someone in the heat of intimacy implies a deeper commitment than the person denying the kiss, is willing (or ISN'T willing) to make. Like, having sex DOESN'T make the same implications to commitment. I guess, at this point, the significance of sex has been so watered down that many CAN differentiate its "current" significance from its "historic" meaning.

All this to say, there is a large population of people that are able to maintain a purely sexual, no strings attached, relationship WITHOUT involving kissing in it. That if they kiss that person, it signifies a deeper commitment being made to that person. But to be able to place your mouth on the "holiest of holys" and to engage in activities, normally, reserved for procreation and NOT, at least, kiss the person, seems hypocritical, at best (not be a judge of anyone...just my opinion). The floor is open...

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PERVING...what is it?
11:28PM on September 10, 2009

This blog is short but sweet.  Basically, I've been on Rude for almost 3 yrs now.  I'd never heard the term PERVIN until I came here. Yeah, I know what a PERVERT is, but I had never heard of the act of PERVING till I joined Rude. NOW, TO ME, PERVING is watching a vid, live show, or live house of someone that turns you on enough that you find yourself pleasuring along with them (IF, thats indeed, what they are doing).  HOWEVER, I've found, in talking to several different people that everyone has a different definition of PERVING.  So, Rudies, what/how do you define the act of PERVING?

Sometimes I feel like a nut....
12:11AM on August 13, 2009

Here's the senario: You are hot and heavy with your lady/man. Things are getting really good...I mean REALLY good. You feel yourself getting to that point, ever so closely then, SPLASH!! You cum REALLY HARD and you're done, thats it...roll over and go to sleep, while your partner sits there wondering if they are gonna be able to get theirs, without having to do it by themselves.

Has this ever happened to you? Have you ever been on either side of this equation?

Most of the time, and I've heard this complaint from women all the time, the guys gets his nut and he's done with his lady laying there to contemplate the future of her orgasm...and I'm sure, more times than we hear, women get theirs and consider themselves done for the night with their men, with dick in hand, jerking their way to a "happy ending". This brings me to the point of my blog and the main question I wanna ask...Is it NECESSARY to get your nut when you have sex?

Personally, sex is about the ACT and not the RESULT of the act. In layman's terms, I have sex just to have sex, NOT JUST to get my nut off. As anyone who truley knows that side of me, I always say, I CAN DO THAT ON MY OWN, I dont need a partner for that. Dont get me wrong, its a WONDERFUL thing to cum in the company of a good sex partner, but my goal is for THEM to get THEIRS, not about mine...so my pleasure is having my partner get theirs...SEVERAL TIMES, I hope. If I finish and DONT get mine, I'm not mad at all (a few times, I have wrapped up without getting my nut) I'm perfectly fine with it, because, like I said, its not about ME..its about her!

So is it possible for you to have fulfilling sex and NOT climax, is that within the realm of possibility?

Good looks...bad sex?
5:10AM on July 24, 2009

SENARIO ONE: Well built man, rock hard six pack abs, looking like he just stepped out of a magazine ad. Of course, you lust after him like a cat in heat; the mere sight of him makes your panties wet on the spot. You get the chance to get down and "dirty" with him and his skills are marginal, at best. He's not terrible in bed, but you've had much better. But, he damn easy on the eyes, and thats all that matters. Or does it?

SENARIO TWO: This guy got skills!! Can eat the lining out of a pussy, nice sized dick and KNOWS what to do with it; in more ways than you can even imagine. You've never cum as many times as you have with him, in ONE night. BUT, on the looks meter he's only busting a strong 7, and thats being generous. He's got a bit of a gut, and is balding a lil bit.

I was having a discussion with a lady friend who was watching the Mr. Marcus video I posted in my previous blog. She was all in "lust" over him and all excited about watching the video, until I brought up the point about his actual skills. Up to that point, she had never paid much attention to what he was doing because she was so in awe of his looks; and I can admit, dude is very well put together. When she went back and watched the video again, and looked at it with a more critical eye, she found that he wasn't doing anything extraordinary. Matter of fact, according to her, he wasn't really doing much at all, especially compared to the men she had been with. It totally changed how she saw him, and maybe how she views pornos, from this point on.

"It's unfortunate what we find pleasing to the touch and pleasing to the eye is seldom the same." -Fabienne, from PULP FICTION

We all, at some point, are visual creatures. A lot of the asssessments we make about people, initially, come from our what we see. Then we can usually delve deeper when we interact with them. But, it seems, most times we are so fixated on looks that we focus ONLY on that initiall judgement that we've made about them. So you continue to entertain a person, with "dime" looks and lackluster skills, OVERLOOKING the "average" looking people who maybe able to take you to the next "level". This is not to say that ALL "pretty" people lack skills (because we know thats a lie) and that all "average" people HAVE skills (because we know that, too, is a lie); that's as bad as the phallacy that ALL good pussy eaters CANT put "it" down. In the end, as the saying goes, we all look the same in the dark. Now what you gonna do when the lights go out?

OUCH!!
3:23AM on July 12, 2009

So, as I pick up the story, we are in the hotel room, in the middle of some "getting ready to leave/we got 10 minutes" fucking; if things hadn't already gotten very hot and heavy, the intensity alone would've set off the smoke alarms. She's on the bed, on her back, legs WAY up in the air; not quite on my shoulders but damn close. She's on the edge of the bed, damn near falling off of it; but does that stop me? HELL NO!! I go a little harder, stroke a little deeper, until, finally, we do tumble onto the hotel room floor. But, again. does that stop me? HELL NO!! So we continue on the floor doin the damn thing.

Finally, she is just at the point of orgasm, so I increase the depth and angle of my stroke to get that nut outta here and she suddenly explodes. But, when she does she thrusts her hips upward and clamps her legs around my waist. Caught in the wave of her orgasm, and subsequent hip thrusts, I'm push upward, also. Upward, onto the waiting corner of the door of the entertainment center that we happen to be laying at the base of. Suddenly, I feel something VERY sharp dig into my back and "scoop" a good portion of skin from my back. But with the intensity of her cumming and the strength of her, already, powerful thighs, I was a slave to her orgasm, meaning my upward swing continued and more skin was peeled from my back like a rip banana.

At that point, my screams of "OH FUCK" and the look of sheer pain on my face alerted her to the fact that my screams were NOT screams of passion, but screams of utter agony. Once, the convulsions of her orgasm were over and I was released from the nutcracker-like grip of her thighs, I was able to scramble to the bathroom to assess the damage my back had just received; and it was nasty. As Bernie Mac would say, I was dug right down to the "white meat"; I mean several layers of skin were lost and the bleeding was, uncontrolable, to say the least. To add insult to injury, the skin that, once, resided on my back, could STILL be seen stuck to the corner of the solid oak entertainment center door.

After bloodying several Marriott towels, several cleanings and several MORE screams of pain the bleeding was contained and my back was sufficiently dressed. Now you are probably saying, why didn't I go to emergency? Well, thats just me being hard headed; we were on our way to party and were already running late (for obvious reasons) so it was time to just "suck it up" and keep it moving.

A great time was had at the party and an even greater time was had AFTER the party, even with my back being SUPER sore in that spot (it STAYED sore for a whole week after). But, I am left with a permanent reminder of that night. So, fam, have you suffered any physical injuries during the course of relations, either permanent or temporary? The floor is open....