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Don't ever think you know somebody
2:16PM on December 23, 2010
My rant for the month..
No matter if its months or years of talking to somebody online, dont ever think you know that person. Even if you meet!
Most times It will bite you in the ass if you do.
Its amazing what you can learn about a person, who they truely are...
or who they arent..
All the self pity gets disgusting after awhile. The complaints about being taken advantage of (how many times does it take before you learn your lesson-or are these just stories?), or complaing about the situation you're in..but yet all the while they continue on without changing any of it. Or the jumping from woman to woman/or man to man...Telling each...oh I love you,(and I dont mean as a friend). This is all just Narcissistic behavior and of course wanting people to feel sorry for you and your situation. Everyone will get tired of it sooner or later. It drives people away, not closer.
The lies that can spill forth from a mouth
is amazing....just step back and watch and listen (of course on the downlow/without their knowledge)...its wild the things you'll see, hear, and learn about a person and what they are about...
Be leary about going to bat in somebodys corner because you may end up looking and/or feeling like a fool....Which I have done and I very much regret doing now.
Im sure I'll have more thoughts to add to this
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Mistr... |
December 23, 2010 (Report It)
Lacey, Thanks for posting on my blog...no reason to block you :) I can totally understand how you felt and what happened in the past was wrong, very wrong....And its because I went to bat for this person a few times that I made mistakes along the way and realize just how much this person used me for his own benefit....and for that I am SO SORRY |
busty... |
December 23, 2010 (Report It)
Not sure if i am blocked from here, I may very well be, I read your blog after i read what you had posted on the boards. When i read this it sort of took the breath out of me, for it felt like maybe you were feeling the way i did a year ago, very hurt & embarrassed over the fact that you had someone that you thought was a friend of yours make you look like a joke in front of hundreds of people, if that is it then yes i know how you feel, I will never get over the hurt it has caused me, in fact it is the worse thing i have ever been through. And the fact that it didn't stop on rude, they took it outside of rude to try & expose me to my family & friends on Facebook, simply because i was stupid enough to give this person my true name . So yes i have been used before from a few ppl on rude before. This has made me not to ever trust people 100% on internet again. And i am sorry it happened to you, for i know how badly it hurts & affects you, I have learned that Rude does have really wonderful people & some really mean & evil ones as well |
fanta... |
December 23, 2010 (Report It)
Yes, I can relate completely.Narcissistic behavior is very dangerous .In fact very selfish ...But the truth comes to the light and it takes time to realize..Just know karma is a bitch and they will get their service soon. |
watchit |
December 23, 2010 (Report It)
Well the darkness of the web is a double edged sword - you can be free to be who you are - without worry - or some people use it to pretend and con...
Happens all the time to webcam girls - they get conned and heart broken as do chatters who believe the lines naively - chatters tend to become unruly and turn the free chat into hell... webcam girls seem to move on to the next mark...
Then there are those on the boards - as we learned before who will con for the fun of it - without any reward but their own jollies - the worse of the human condition - total selfishness...
To those I say - I am who I am - sometimes nice sometimes so very mean - but I'm never the fool because I am who I am - its me - and what you do with it - is you... so I may make an error and be sympathetic or empathic even show compassion for someone plight - i never send money - i will give helpful suggestions - I will go by my gut feeling of the person - my mind tends to rationalize away what my gut tells me is wrong... and if I look like a fool - so what - really look at it - if that person was not a con - would I be foolish to be nice to them - did they win by pulling off a con - or did they lose so much more...
Never be ashamed of being the good person you are - how they use it is on them... I've been fooled by a few people - most of the time my motto applies - "I can be your best friend or your worst enemy - I'll give you the opportunity to take advantage of me - you decide which one you want" Those that chose they wanted to be enemies truly lost so much and trust me - Its not my best side but it is a very very long lasting side of mean... and best of all - as the last person said - "what goes around comes around" and you'd be surprised how often we meet one another again at a different time n place... as the song that sticks in my mind goes... "timeeeee is on my side -yes it is..." Dont lt it bother you file it away and wait- someday this emotion will sever you well... your gut will remember - even if your brain wants to foget... you will learn alot and that person lost alot.... Compassion, empathy, even sympathy are good qualities... don't let the cons change you negatively - you will gain so much more positively from all this... and one last thing... Negativity feeds on itself positivity grows ... keep on growing... Happy Holidays and Merry Xmas ;-}}
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jadam... |
December 23, 2010 (Report It)
People will show you exactly who they are. And when they do, believe them. Also, people will treat you just like you let them...It's best to just "have grace" and leave them alone...."Last one mad, loses"..... |
Uncle... |
December 23, 2010 (Report It)
You sound like someone screwed you over. I've found there's a lot of truth to the old saying "what goes around comes around". That person will eventually get exactly what he/she deserves. |
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