Thoughts on the BBC Phenomena
3:31PM on May 24, 2009
 
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BBCs
In the Lifestyle (swinging) community, there are routine posts seeking BBCs. This initialism is code for BigBlackCock. These posts typically come from white and Latina women. There is an underlying assumption, I guess, that black women already have, or have unfettered access to, the BBCs as I see extremely few posts of this sort from black women (except for my girl Tulsa_Moon who insists on any cock that will "fill her up" as long as it meets her 'groove' or rhythm preference).
This blog is to share my thoughts on the subject as I get far more of these requests than I deserve.
First, a bit on The I
I am 6' tall, 200 lbs. with an athletic build. I own my home and live with two thick, bisexual hotties, MsBambie and Fierce. Our girlfriend Ty (SugarTyTee) lives nearby and visits often.
Someone once called me a metrosexual. Not knowing if it was meant as an insult, I looked it up in Esquire magazine. The definition they gave seems to fit me.
Metrosexual Me
I enjoy dancing - both contemporary and ballroom, cruises, cinema (preferably foreign and independent films), theatre, fine dining, road trips and physical culture. I am an accomplished cook and love shopping, interior design and other fine arts. I have a gym built into my home and work out five days a week. I get a manicure every ten days and a pedicure every six weeks.
I am fastidious and won't leave the house unless I am dressed nattily. Nor will I range through the malls or other public locales with anyone who is not presentably attired. "Always be presentable" is what I practice. You never know whom you will meet while out and about.
I don't follow any sports. I don't know the teams, players or seasons. My thinking is this: no matter who wins, I don't get paid.
I'm a voracious reader, preferring non-fiction but having an appreciation for certain authors of fiction (Heinlein, Butler, Koontz, Cook, Crichton, Clark, Bradbury, King, et al). I am a self-employed forensicist (I own the company) and have a few other business ventures percolating presently. I am 59 years of age.
My Preferences
I date women - not ages, not colors, not ethnicities, but that certain and ineffable combination of personal and physical characteristics that strike me as appealing at a given time. And for me, the cast is not set, meaning I don't prefer one somatotype or height or weight over another. It all tends to swing on the impact and dynamics attendant to the individual - and the chemistry between the individual and me. There's more to me, of course, but I'll reserve that for the continuing dialogue I hope to enjoy. Oh, and I'm black, American and relatively dark-skinned but handsome is not a call I can make (given that beauty is in the eyes....well, you know what I mean).
I understand and appreciate preferences, however. Your mind's eye knows what it likes and seeks out that thing - sometimes situationally, sometimes impulsively, and sometimes by design. I suppose it can be difficult to wrap one's mindset around a pattern interruption (to borrow a term from heuristic psychology). To some, preferences may seem limiting; to me it's just another function of individuality and free will.
I see people from the inside out. Hue is never a determinant.
I've dated women who only date - or prefer to date - Black men and I didn't find it particularly flattering (unless, of course, they dated me because they knew something of the inner me - and not just the external presentation).
Too often, though, it appeared I was sought after owing to some preconceptions, misconceptions, rumors, curiosity and stereotypes. That's a lot to live up to and it has never been sufficiently important to my ego for me to engage that endeavor. But that's just me; I don't begrudge or judge others for their take on things.
In the planet's social fabric, there's room for both...and more. It keeps it interesting.
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