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Communication Between Customer and Cam Mistresses
4:08AM on November 15, 2008

Ok. I have too many damn blogs and that was the reason I haven't used this until recently however this was the only place I could think of to put this since I needed to get this off my chest however the person who I wish I could communicate this to has given me a reason to doubt their receptiveness to my thoughts. Partially my fault I admit because of my horrible response born out of shock and anger but we'll get into that later.

Lots of cam mistresses stress the importance of a customer communicating their needs clearly and openly in order for them to best provide for them. I would like to put forth that it's just as important that a cam mistress communicate their own needs and preferences as clearly as possible so that a customer can be good customer or find some one else more suited to their needs. Cam sex like the actual physical act of sex requires communication to make it the best possible experience for all involved.

I met up with cam mistress and at first things were cool. She did awesome shows and it was fun talking afterwards. After awhile she began to start avoiding doing shows with me. Even getting to the point where she lied about having a period to just to end the show. Sometime later that same evening, I saw she was doing shows again. I'm not stupid and I knew something was up. Eventually she comes out and says that the problem was that I had too much stamina for her and didn't cum soon enough.

This was a surprise to me but when think back on things I can see she was trying to tell me that but it was in indirect ways. She say it was unfair for her to be having so much fun when I haven't came yet or her asking to cum with her. But it wasn't until she said she couldn't keep going like I could and having to wait for me was not enjoyable for her that I realized what was going on. I'm used to women cumming at least twice before I do. I've even had few webcam mistresses beg me to do more shows with them. Keeping my stamina up was just something I had gotten used to. There have been cases where I've come in armed with the knowledge that a webcam mistress doesn't want someone who lasts as long and I've developed a workaround by jerking off beforehand so I didn't have as long to go before I busted.

However because I was not in a right state of mind when I was suddenly hit with this info, I didn't do enough listening to her at this point. She was trying to recommend webcam mistresses who could last as long as I could and I was out to prove that I could cum as quickly as I needed to. Needless to say, it didn't end well. I can definitely admit my faults and fallacies.

It wasn't until after she clearly presented the problem that I was able to come up with a solution. Soon after, I discovered that if I put myself in a certain state of mind I can not only cum quickly but also cum twice in a fairly short amount of time. However this solution may never see usage because of both her frustration at my inability to see where the problem was until it was too late and my frustration at the deception used to avoid shows with me stood in the way of salvaging what could've been a beautiful customer/cam mistress relationship. I ask for cam mistresses to be clear about their needs not only for the sake of customers who might not fit you so they can find someone one who does fit them and for the sake of the customers who are willing to work with you so that all can walk away from the experience happy.