My Blog :: I have discovered that there is a formula to good head: Posted on Thursday, October 5 2006 at 06:17 pm [Edit Post] P.E.T.E Passion, Enthusiasm, Technique, Energy: Passion- You can't give good head unless you like to, want to be good, have a burning desire to get your partner off hard! You have to love it! Be into, wild and free! Energy- Vigor, activity and motion all meet to generate heat. Technique-Is where attentiveness meets with practice and it's how you improve, you learn what works for whom. And Enthusiasm is a combination of pride in the work and the joy of pleasing your partner. But here's the good news: It's easy to learn how to be a true Head Mistress. I'm going to tell you exactly how. It doesn't matter what setting you choose, you can be home in bed or parked on Garfield, but seek whatever level of privacy you need to feel relaxed and sexy. Let's assume you're with a man you like and you know he'd love to have a good blow job about now. Slip down on the floor between his legs and open his fly. Reach in and touch his dick. If he's hot for you, it will already be hard. If he's nervous, it may still be bent up inside his pants. Grab hold and lean up to his face and kiss him. See if you can feel a response down below. Any movement is a good sign. Now pull it out and see how it stands. If it's straight up, you're doing great, otherwise, here's what to do: Pull his balls out. If the pants are too tight, pull them down. Now hold his balls in your left hand and his dick in your right. Squeeze it gently down toward the bottom of the shaft and get ready to suck. Run your tongue over your lips to get them good and wet and look into your man's face. He wants to watch you suck him off. Men love to watch. Now open your mouth just slightly to tease and excite your man and come very close to it. Breathe on him, blow on him with your hot breath. Stick your tongue out again and reach for him, tease him. Making sure your tongue is dripping wet, begin at the bottom of his shaft and lick upwards, slowly. Turn your head sideways and pretend to take a bite of him, gently setting your teeth into his flesh. Wet him again with your tongue and use your hand to spread the liquid around if necessary. A wet dick looks and sounds a lot sexier than a dry one. Your left had meanwhile is massaging those balls, perhaps scratching them lightly with your fingernails. You may also want to reach behind and underneath the balls to get to that ever-so-sensitive area just before the anus, or even to run your fingers over his asshole very lightly. Since the muscle that cause erection originates back there, this will produce a reaction in his dick. After you've licked his shaft lots of times and it's all wet and hard, your man is going to start squirming with frustration if you don't start getting serious. A quick look up at his face will let you know when you're taking things too far. Teasing is great...to a point. A little experience in dick-sucking will educate you as to just when that point has been reached. On one of your upward swings with your tongue, from the base of his shaft to the rim of his knob, don't stop. Continue your long, wet lick over the top of his dick, lingering at the hole in the center. Stick your tongue into it, if you can, but don't suck the head yet. Now run your tongue around the rim of his knob, all the way around, making frequent passes on the tender skin directly facing you. This is where most men are the most sensitive. But not all men! That's one thing a good dick sucker has to learn to do, as soon as you're comfortable, that is. Ask questions. Each man is unique and so is his dick. Squeeze the shaft and see if some clear liquid pops up. If it does, dip your tongue into it and pull away. It will stretch with you and look fantastically erotic to your partner. Now, make like you love the stuff. Close in on that head like it was chocolate ice-cream and take the whole knob into your hot mouth. Hold it there and wait for the moans. I like to be taken deep but I am a little large for some, just take as much as you can handle down quickly into your mouth. Don't worry, if you choke, back off and change your angle. If you bend your neck in just the right way, you can take it clear into your throat. Stay there, with the dick down your mouth, for just a moment. Feel it inside of you. This can be almost as luscious as having one in your pussy. It grows on you. At this point you can do several things. This is one of them: Slide back up to the tip of the dick and flick your tongue against it. Your man will be getting antsy now, wanting you to deep-throat him some more. But don't let him bully you. If he had his way, it'd be over in two minutes and what fun is that? Moving as fast as he can handle it (don't let him come yet), slide up and down on it as if you're fucking him. If he gets too close to coming, stop, or at least slow down. If you can't get all the way down to the bottom of his dick, you can cheat a little by using that right hand of yours to complete the sensation of deep throating him. It still looks as if you've got the whole thing in your mouth and still feels like it. You can also slide your fingers, made in an O-shape around the shaft, up and down with the rhythm of your sucking. That's another thing. Besides just mouthing the dick, you can suck it which is quite different. There are deep-sucks and little ones and both feel damned great. Your man may have a preference, however, so watch his reactions. I love it deep but if that is not comfortable back off a little. Take just the knob in your mouth; suck it as if it were a nipple or a straw. This feels so good to most men; it makes me hot just thinking about it. The other suck is a long, sweeping one, where you take the whole dick and suck it all the way up like you would a popsicle and then go back and do it again, sucking on the way down as well. That’s the one that pushes me over the edge. Here is an important thing to know: Any of these moves will feel great the first few times or more, but after a while, it's as if it gets immune to feeling. When you sense this, it's time to move onto your next play. You don't want the dick to go to sleep. You want it constantly stimulated, almost, but not quite, to the point of orgasm. This is just about where we are now. You've got a raging hard-on in your right hand and some tight balls in your left. Lean back and take a look at it. Aren't you filled with pride in your skills? And you ought to be, you are an artist at playing the flesh flute. Move your right hand all the way to the base of the dick and squeeze it there. This will cause the shaft to fill and thicken, and by now the knob, will be shining and smooth. Continue to take it into your mouth and suck and try out all your various moves until you know the man can't stand anymore and he's going to blast off. What you do now is between you and your lover. Personally, I love if a woman can swallow. It's amazing how much of that stuff comes out and how far it shoots. If you want to watch, you'll feel it coming with your right hand and know when to back off. You can even try to catch some on your tongue if you're fast. You might want to swallow it, some do, and lots of guys like to have it swallowed. Be careful to back up a little when it goes off though or you'll gag on it and that's not too romantic. Take it into your mouth and hold it there and then swallow it. Another solution and this is a nice one too, unless you're making love where you can't make a mess, is to let the warm, wonderful juices gush into your mouth and then slide around the already wet dick. You'll want to run your hands through it, feeling that hard dick all the way up, smoothing the glistening cum over the knob. This makes a great sensual image too, for you and for your man. Or you can let it guy geyser style, everywhere! Now you've given your man a blow job that he'll not forget. Believe me, if you follow my instructions, this guy will want to see a lot more of you. Every man loves a lady who knows how to give good head. Too many treat head like it’s a big favor, which is another point I should make. If you don't like to give head and you've tried to learn to like it and it still doesn't work, don't give up. Maybe you'll like it more as you grow older. Many older women are much better at giving head. But I should warn you, there are a lot of out here who love to give head and we're going to be stiff competition for you shy ones. I know women who can even have orgasms sucking dick. God bless them!! Final notes, this time for the men: 1. Don't push it. There's nothing more deadly to the vibe than pushing her head down there. 2. You just cleaned, clean again including the balls, the sack, perineum, that’s between the testicles and anus, the crease next to the thighs, the hole. Hell clean everything!! You can’t be too clean 3. Be a receptive audience. Think of how dull a game would be if the crowd just sat there. Same deal, give some encouragement, grunts, groans, Yeah baby’s, damn that’s good! Even a little dirty talk is nice. 4. If you have a suggestion, remember this is not the workplace, make is hot and a request not an order, [unless she’s into that]. 5. Just like at the firing range warn before firing, some women like a mouthful of genetic gumbo, but many do not. A gentleman gives her the option of swallowing, spitting or bailing out. If you abuse her trust there might not be a repeat performance!