Blogs > 11bravo138'sRudeBlog!I have discovered that there is a formula to good head:
Posted on Thursday, October 5 2006 at 06:17 pm [Edit Post]
P.E.T.E Passion, Enthusiasm, Technique, Energy: Passion- You can't give good head unless you like to, want to be good, have a burning desire to get your partner off hard! You have to love it! Be into, wild and free! Energy- Vigor, activity and motion all meet to generate heat. Technique-Is where attentiveness meets with practice and it's how you improve, you learn what works for whom. And Enthusiasm is a combination of pride in the work and the joy of pleasing your partner. But here's the good news: It's easy to learn how to be a true Head Mistress. I'm going to tell you exactly how. It doesn't matter what setting you choose, you can be home in bed or parked on Garfield, but seek whatever level of privacy you need to feel relaxed and sexy. Let's assume you're with a man you like and you know he'd love to have a good blow job about now. Slip down on the floor between his legs and open his fly. Reach in and touch his dick. If he's hot for you, it will already be hard. If he's nervous, it may still be bent up inside his pants. Grab hold and lean up to his face and kiss him. See if you can feel a response down below. Any movement is a good sign. Now pull it out and see how it stands. If it's straight up, you're doing great, otherwise, here's what to do: Pull his balls out. If the pants are too tight, pull them down. Now hold his balls in your left hand and his dick in your right. Squeeze it gently down toward the bottom of the shaft and get ready to suck. Run your tongue over your lips to get them good and wet and look into your man's face. He wants to watch you suck him off. Men love to watch. Now open your mouth just slightly to tease and excite your man and come very close to it. Breathe on him, blow on him with your hot breath. Stick your tongue out again and reach for him, tease him. Making sure your tongue is dripping wet, begin at the bottom of his shaft and lick upwards, slowly. Turn your head sideways and pretend to take a bite of him, gently setting your teeth into his flesh. Wet him again with your tongue and use your hand to spread the liquid around if necessary. A wet dick looks and sounds a lot sexier than a dry one. Your left had meanwhile is massaging those balls, perhaps scratching them lightly with your fingernails. You may also want to reach behind and underneath the balls to get to that ever-so-sensitive area just before the anus, or even to run your fingers over his asshole very lightly. Since the muscle that cause erection originates back there, this will produce a reaction in his dick. After you've licked his shaft lots of times and it's all wet and hard, your man is going to start squirming with frustration if you don't start getting serious. A quick look up at his face will let you know when you're taking things too far. Teasing is great...to a point. A little experience in dick-sucking will educate you as to just when that point has been reached. On one of your upward swings with your tongue, from the base of his shaft to the rim of his knob, don't stop. Continue your long, wet lick over the top of his dick, lingering at the hole in the center. Stick your tongue into it, if you can, but don't suck the head yet. Now run your tongue around the rim of his knob, all the way around, making frequent passes on the tender skin directly facing you. This is where most men are the most sensitive. But not all men! That's one thing a good dick sucker has to learn to do, as soon as you're comfortable, that is. Ask questions. Each man is unique and so is his dick. Squeeze the shaft and see if some clear liquid pops up. If it does, dip your tongue into it and pull away. It will stretch with you and look fantastically erotic to your partner. Now, make like you love the stuff. Close in on that head like it was chocolate ice-cream and take the whole knob into your hot mouth. Hold it there and wait for the moans. I like to be taken deep but I am a little large for some, just take as much as you can handle down quickly into your mouth. Don't worry, if you choke, back off and change your angle. If you bend your neck in just the right way, you can take it clear into your throat. Stay there, with the dick down your mouth, for just a moment. Feel it inside of you. This can be almost as luscious as having one in your pussy. It grows on you. At this point you can do several things. This is one of them: Slide back up to the tip of the dick and flick your tongue against it. Your man will be getting antsy now, wanting you to deep-throat him some more. But don't let him bully you. If he had his way, it'd be over in two minutes and what fun is that? Moving as fast as he can handle it (don't let him come yet), slide up and down on it as if you're fucking him. If he gets too close to coming, stop, or at least slow down. If you can't get all the way down to the bottom of his dick, you can cheat a little by using that right hand of yours to complete the sensation of deep throating him. It still looks as if you've got the whole thing in your mouth and still feels like it. You can also slide your fingers, made in an O-shape around the shaft, up and down with the rhythm of your sucking. That's another thing. Besides just mouthing the dick, you can suck it which is quite different. There are deep-sucks and little ones and both feel damned great. Your man may have a preference, however, so watch his reactions. I love it deep but if that is not comfortable back off a little. Take just the knob in your mouth; suck it as if it were a nipple or a straw. This feels so good to most men; it makes me hot just thinking about it. The other suck is a long, sweeping one, where you take the whole dick and suck it all the way up like you would a popsicle and then go back and do it again, sucking on the way down as well. That’s the one that pushes me over the edge. Here is an important thing to know: Any of these moves will feel great the first few times or more, but after a while, it's as if it gets immune to feeling. When you sense this, it's time to move onto your next play. You don't want the dick to go to sleep. You want it constantly stimulated, almost, but not quite, to the point of orgasm. This is just about where we are now. You've got a raging hard-on in your right hand and some tight balls in your left. Lean back and take a look at it. Aren't you filled with pride in your skills? And you ought to be, you are an artist at playing the flesh flute. Move your right hand all the way to the base of the dick and squeeze it there. This will cause the shaft to fill and thicken, and by now the knob, will be shining and smooth. Continue to take it into your mouth and suck and try out all your various moves until you know the man can't stand anymore and he's going to blast off. What you do now is between you and your lover. Personally, I love if a woman can swallow. It's amazing how much of that stuff comes out and how far it shoots. If you want to watch, you'll feel it coming with your right hand and know when to back off. You can even try to catch some on your tongue if you're fast. You might want to swallow it, some do, and lots of guys like to have it swallowed. Be careful to back up a little when it goes off though or you'll gag on it and that's not too romantic. Take it into your mouth and hold it there and then swallow it. Another solution and this is a nice one too, unless you're making love where you can't make a mess, is to let the warm, wonderful juices gush into your mouth and then slide around the already wet dick. You'll want to run your hands through it, feeling that hard dick all the way up, smoothing the glistening cum over the knob. This makes a great sensual image too, for you and for your man. Or you can let it guy geyser style, everywhere! Now you've given your man a blow job that he'll not forget. Believe me, if you follow my instructions, this guy will want to see a lot more of you. Every man loves a lady who knows how to give good head. Too many treat head like it’s a big favor, which is another point I should make. If you don't like to give head and you've tried to learn to like it and it still doesn't work, don't give up. Maybe you'll like it more as you grow older. Many older women are much better at giving head. But I should warn you, there are a lot of out here who love to give head and we're going to be stiff competition for you shy ones. I know women who can even have orgasms sucking dick. God bless them!! Final notes, this time for the men: 1. Don't push it. There's nothing more deadly to the vibe than pushing her head down there. 2. You just cleaned, clean again including the balls, the sack, perineum, that’s between the testicles and anus, the crease next to the thighs, the hole. Hell clean everything!! You can’t be too clean 3. Be a receptive audience. Think of how dull a game would be if the crowd just sat there. Same deal, give some encouragement, grunts, groans, Yeah baby’s, damn that’s good! Even a little dirty talk is nice. 4. If you have a suggestion, remember this is not the workplace, make is hot and a request not an order, [unless she’s into that]. 5. Just like at the firing range warn before firing, some women like a mouthful of genetic gumbo, but many do not. A gentleman gives her the option of swallowing, spitting or bailing out. If you abuse her trust there might not be a repeat performance!
I Promise it's Not Pee The G-Spot and Squirting 6:35AM on May 11, 2008
In my endless crusade to serve the RUDE.com community, I have revisited and rewritten one of my classics. I hope those who have experiences to share will add to the knowledge base. The Moon has been visited numerous times. Everest is climbed with regularity, the depth of the ocean plumbed and measured, and it seems it will be only a matter of time before somebody takes a picture of God with their camera phone. Unlike men, women can orgasm several different ways, via clitoral, vaginal, or G-Spot stimulation. Your partner may already climax fairly easily with clitoral stimulation or during intercourse. However, there is an area for stimulation inside her vagina called the G-Spot that you may not have found. Most people don't know about it. The G-Spot is a bean shaped mass of nerve tissue located about halfway between the back of the pubic bone and the top of the cervix. The G-Spot is the focal point of the female sexual arousal. The size and location of the G-Spot will vary from woman to woman, but it's usually about the size of a quarter, and lies two to three inches inside the vagina directly behind the pubic bone. You may be able to help her have added pleasure, experience new sensations, and perhaps have a new type of climax.
In Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot, Deborah Sundahl presents an open, positive and down-to-earth discussion that will help women reconnect with their G-Spot and discover their natural ability to ejaculate. Her approach respects women’s doubts and fears, while inviting those who are ready to jump right in. Deborah encourages both men and women to understand and connect with this powerful and natural female erotic organ, and its flowing fountain of energy and desire. The Grafenberg area, or G-spot as it is called, is one of many discoveries stemming from the new flood of research. This discovery can enhance sexual stimulation for women and deepen many facets of pleasure for both sexes, a worthy hedonistic goal.
The Grafenberg area is a valuable possibility for explorations into sexual fulfillment, although it must be stressed that there is no stigma attached to being unable to find a G-spot. Feelings of inadequacy could arise from placing too much pressure on any sexual goal, and this defeats the purpose by curtailing the pleasure experienced. However, if it is not sought as the be-all-end-all of female erogeneity, it can be and is a very enjoyable facet of sexuality. All women can squirt just as all women can orgasm, however it is much easier for some than others. As Margaret Curtis reports in an article in the January 1989 issue of Mademoiselle, many current researchers insist that the G-spot does exist, and that it opens up a new dimension of sexual pleasure when found and stimulated. But how does one locate a small area of erectile tissue within the vaginal tract? In its unstimulated state the G-spot is generally small, roughly bean-sized, and flaccidly soft. To locate it, you must seek during an excited state, because during arousal the G-spot fills with blood and swells greatly in size. According to Ladas and her colleagues, the Grafenberg spot lies "directly behind the pubic bone within the front wall of the vagina. The “G-Spot” is usually located about halfway between the back of the pubic bone and the front of the cervix, along the course of the urethra... and near the neck of the bladder." An additional difficulty in locating this organ is that among certain women it may be dormant, and it may require much direct stimulation to arouse any response. According to my sources and personal experience, it is easiest to find if the woman is laying on her stomach, with probing fingers exerting pressure downward against the anterior vaginal wall (the side directly behind and closest to the navel) generally between two and three inches within the vaginal tract. For a woman seeking this organ on her own for masturbatory purposes, it might be most easily found if she assumes a squatting position. The prevailing theory as to why women have a tactile receptor in such an inconspicuous place is that, having been evolved from quadrupeds, our sexual organs are positioned for maximal stimulation from the a posteriori sexual position, in which the man enters the woman from behind. With Western sexual practices emphasizing the male-superior (missionary) position almost to the exclusion of all others, it is little wonder that the Grafenberg area has been overlooked for so long. Grafenberg's findings were that:
...an erotic zone could always be demonstrated on the anterior wall
of the vagina along the course of the urethra, [which] seems to
be surrounded by erectile tissue like the corpora cavernosa [of the
penis].... In the course of sexual stimulation, the female urethra
begins to enlarge and can be easily felt. It swells out greatly at
the end of orgasm. The most stimulating part is located at the
posterior urethra, where it arises from the neck of the bladder
Ever a valuable information resource, the Internet provided many interesting first-person supporting accounts. Among them is this account from:med!shelby!apple!julius.cs.uiuc.edu!wu-archive!cs.utexas.edu!utgpu!news-serv, located at the G-Spot FAQ in article"9011020140.AA14720@cwns16.INS.CWRU.Edu":
ad094@cleveland.Freenet.Edu: ">Can any females out there confirm the existence of the G-spot? >Yes. >Where is it? >Depends on the woman. Inside, toward the front. The part that feels like the roof of the mouth. >How do you like it stimulated? >Gently. >What does it feel like? >Uh, good. :-)"
I conducted a recent interview:
Q-Please tell me about your experience.
A: I have only been made to squirt once
A: but I stay super wet all the time
Q: Tell me about what was happening when you squirted?
A: well a very good friend of mine was in the process of going down on me and he has a habit of fingering my pussy and my ass when he does that
A: he was getting kind of rough with me when it happened
A: but I like it kind of rough anyway
A: I also think the fact that someone else was kissing me and sucking on my nipples had something to do with it
Q: Were you being fingered?
A: yes
A: it’s like because I was being stimulated in so many different ways
Q: Were they using a come here motion?
A: I have also heard that
A: I can’t tell if it was that because he was fingering my pussy and my ass
Q: That sounds intense may I quote you? I won't use names?
A: You may
Q: Thanks.
A: no problem.
Q: Was it a single squirt, or multiples?
A :multiples
A: wet the bed down to the mattress
A: that was big fun!
Q: Was it more intense than other orgasms?
A: yes it was
A: I was completely exhausted!
A: I’m usually ready to keep going
Q: Have you ever tried to replicate the experience?
A: it wasn’t the same but I tried
A: it’s never gotten quite to that level again
Q: Did you have any trouble finding your G-Spot?
A: No
A: I started masturbating at an early age
Q: Some say it feels like a little sponge or loofah, what was yours like?
A: Spongy
Q: Did it ever start to feel like it was filling or swelling?
A: That I didn’t notice
Q: Okay.
Q: Any other questions?? [She asked me]
Q: Right before you squirted what was the sensation?
A: it was as if my whole body was tense and there was nothing else to do but release
Q: Cool!
A: and I could not have stopped it if I tried
A: Too much stimulation
Q: How did your partner react?
A: Which one??
Q: Give me both of their reactions.
A: he looked as if he had just conquered the world
A: I need to add that he is a man that a woman can tell he loves to eat pussy.
A: He feeds off the woman’ reactions
A: She was kind of looking awestruck like what just happened
Q: Probably the 1st time she'd seen that.
A: Yes.
A: She told me afterwards that she thought that I had pissed in his face
Q: But you could tell the difference right away?
A: Yes
A: but it startled me too because I couldn’t stop it.
Q: Let me know if you have any other drenchings.
A: I sure will keep you up to speed
Q: You have really helped me, in about 1/2 hour I should have a great blog
A: Not a problem
A: Glad to help
Q: Well we make a good team.
A: indeed we do
Q: I'll have to keep that in mind.
A: Again my pleasure
Q: And trust me I have found this informative and stimulating.
Q: Cool...anymore questions let me know? [she asked]
Q: Did he mention anything about taste?
A: mmmhmmm
A: No.
A: Let me ask though
A: I'm chatting with him right now
A: Hang on sweetie
A: Ok...the answer that I got was...being that I am normally so wet anyway...it didn’t taste different that just my normal
A: it was just a whole lot of it.
Me-Great! Thanks again for all the help.
I personally have located small regions of erectile tissue matching the description of the G-spot in all the sexual partners I've sought it in, although the response patterns varied. The sensations described to me were generally very pleasant, although one notable exception occurred, in which my partner actually reported discomfort during stimulation of the area. However, this region does exist, and thanks to modern research the knowledge of it has been brought to public light.
Another interesting discovery associated with G-spot research is the incidence of female ejaculation. In "Female Urethral Expulsions Evoked by Local Digital Stimulation of the G-Spot: Differences in the Response patterns," an article in the Journal of Sex Research by Milan Zaviacic and his colleagues at Comenius University in Bratislava, this phenomena was studied in some depth. The study was conducted with twenty-seven women; a G-spot was found in all, and ten of them experienced episodes of feminine ejaculation. The accepted theory is that the G-spot is analogous to the prostate and associated glands, as it seems to produce a fluid chemically similar to male seminal fluid. This phenomenon is one that many women mistake for urinary incontinence, although the fluid released is actually quite different from urine. This is not an uncommon occurrence, as is shown in "Female Ejaculation: Perceived Origins, the Grafenberg Spot/Area, and Sexual Responsiveness," an article in the Archives of Sexual Behavior. According to the introduction, forty percent of the participants in an anonymous mail survey of 2350 women (with a fifty-five percent response rate) reported experiences of ejaculation (Darling, Davidson, Conway-Welch 29).
A few tips:
Be patient and persistent if this is important to you remember you are not doing a woodshop project for Father’s Day but instead opening a permanent pleasure portal, so if this is solo or a team effort-
Relax, don’t stress out it’s not like your trying to defuse a bomb, it’s supposed to be fun, if it doesn’t happen you still had fun trying and try again later.
Be gentle unless you have been told to get medieval on the pussy.
LUBE, LUBE and More LUBE unless you are dealing with a Niagara type.
Celebrate if you get there you have joined the order or the Orgasmic Ocean.
Suggested Reading:
Bullough, Vern L. Science in the Bedroom: A History of Sex Research. New York: Basic Books, 1994.
Curtis, Margaret. "Paradise Found? Hot Flash on the G-Spot." Mademoiselle. Jan. 1989: 64
Hite, Shere. The Hite Report: A Nationwide Study of Female Sexuality . New York: Macmillan, 1976.
Reinisch, June M. The Kinsey Institute New Report on Sex. New York: St. Martin's Press, 1990.
